Are PTSD Nightmares Therapeutic?

This is often a concept offered to trauma survivors:  their terrible dreams are helping them heal.  They need to suffer through the fear and racing heartbeats in order to recover and grow. Well, let’s unpack this a bit more.  Like a lot of things, there is some truth to this, and a big distinction betweenContinue reading “Are PTSD Nightmares Therapeutic?”

Why Being “Knocked Out” at the Dentist is Riskier Than You Think When You Have DID

So many trauma survivors find receiving dental treatments in the dentist’s office frightening.  OK, maybe not frightening.  Terrifying.  They often opt for being “knocked out” instead of choosing to stay awake and aware during treatment. I understand why. And I understand why this is not a solution without some risks. Many autistic kids receive theContinue reading “Why Being “Knocked Out” at the Dentist is Riskier Than You Think When You Have DID”

How to Improve Your Physical Health While Still Struggling With “Somatic Tolerance”

What is “somatic tolerance”?  It is a therapy term that is used when you find it either unpleasant or just plain difficult to be present in your body.  You could be unable to answer a question like “When you are scared, where do you feel it in your body?” or you could not know thatContinue reading “How to Improve Your Physical Health While Still Struggling With “Somatic Tolerance””

Are Parts of Your Dissociative System Too Active at Night?

Many people with DID wake up to find that their parts have been active while they thought the were sleeping.  They weren’t sleeping; they were switching.  This means that their body (there is only one) wasn’t getting the benefits of sleep.  Poor sleep can make daytime harder.  You are on edge, you dissociate more andContinue reading “Are Parts of Your Dissociative System Too Active at Night?”

Are Your Antidepressant Meds Making You Feel Stupid and Keeping You Awake?

Trauma survivors often heard people say really awful things about their abilities in childhood.  “You are so dumb” is one of them.  The truth usually is that they are being gaslit or groomed for later abuse.  There is nothing wrong with their intelligence.  But when an adult trauma survivor finds that they can’t remember simpleContinue reading “Are Your Antidepressant Meds Making You Feel Stupid and Keeping You Awake?”

Why Your Doctor Doesn’t Know You Feel So Exposed in an Exam

This one is fairly simple:  They have a different perspective than you do, one that is often is more on their mind than how comfortable you feel. Providers have been at this examination business for a long time, and most of us have been looking at all types of bodies every day.  All types.  NothingContinue reading “Why Your Doctor Doesn’t Know You Feel So Exposed in an Exam”

Why Does Tech Torpedo Sleep?

Everyone loves their devices. Everyone. Except your brain and body.   Your brain gets glitchy with doom scrolling, and how much it loves the simple rewards of clicking through things rather than diving deep into stuff.  It goes right into a high Beta brainwave state, where it is hyper focused but vulnerable to anxiety andContinue reading “Why Does Tech Torpedo Sleep?”

Should Trauma Survivors Avoid Taking Naps?

A lovely long nap seems like a gift.  And for trauma survivors who fear sleeping at night, a nap might be their most peaceful sleeping time. It can also be the major contributor to their sleep terrors and nighttime insomnia. The reasons for this are not a mystery to sleep scientists.  They don’t have toContinue reading “Should Trauma Survivors Avoid Taking Naps?”

Why Your Nightcap Could Torpedo Your Expensive Trauma Therapy

It is pretty common for trauma survivors to look to alcohol to take the edge off at the end of a rough day.  Most days are challenging when you have DID.  Some days it feels like 5 pm by noon.  Or earlier. A small glass of wine or a single bottle of brew seems quiteContinue reading “Why Your Nightcap Could Torpedo Your Expensive Trauma Therapy”

How Trauma Survivors With DID Can Accept Help While in the Hospital for Medical Issues

Being hospitalized for a physical illness or injury can be extremely stressful.  No one gets any sleep, the food is often a bit scary, and communicating with your outside providers might be tough to manage. But too often, you just want some help to get to the bathroom… in time. If you have DID, askingContinue reading “How Trauma Survivors With DID Can Accept Help While in the Hospital for Medical Issues”