Why Your Doctor Doesn’t Know You Feel So Exposed in an Exam

This one is fairly simple:  They have a different perspective than you do, one that is often is more on their mind than how comfortable you feel. Providers have been at this examination business for a long time, and most of us have been looking at all types of bodies every day.  All types.  NothingContinue reading “Why Your Doctor Doesn’t Know You Feel So Exposed in an Exam”

Starting to Dissociate in an Appointment? You Have Some Choices

Everyone with DID has been there. You are in the middle of a medical or dental appointment, and you either hear another part’s words coming out of your mouth, or you feel yourself floating to the ceiling, or you can’t open your mouth to answer a simple question. You are dissociating or switching.   ThinkContinue reading “Starting to Dissociate in an Appointment? You Have Some Choices”

Should You Tell Your Dentist You Have DID?

Short answer:  It depends. Long answer:  It depends on your goal. Revealing a diagnosis because you think it will result in an immediate action by the dentist, which will make sitting in that chair easier, is usually based on magical thinking arising from stress and anxiety.  It makes sense:  “please give me one thing IContinue reading “Should You Tell Your Dentist You Have DID?”

Why is it so Hard to Use Many Common Stabilization Strategies in Medical and Dental Appointments?

The short answer? Because the part of your brain that goes partially “off-line” when you dissociate is the SAME PART that is supposed to remember and use the techniques your therapist taught you in session. Yup.   I know. Me too. The long(er) answer? Because you aren’t using them early enough, using more than one,Continue reading “Why is it so Hard to Use Many Common Stabilization Strategies in Medical and Dental Appointments?”

Here is What You Can Request From Your Doctor To Feel Safer In Your Next Appointment

I will be speaking at the Healing Together conference next month, and one of my handouts will be a modified version of this list of suggested adaptations.  I thought I would share it here, since it could be the most helpful thing I say to the audience during my presentation. Why ask for adaptations? BecauseContinue reading “Here is What You Can Request From Your Doctor To Feel Safer In Your Next Appointment”

Can You Ask Your Healthcare Provider To Adapt Their Treatments?

The short answer is “yes”. What you request, when you request it, and how you request it are important things to consider if you want to use adaptations successfully to reduce your fear, pain, and risk of being triggered. Not every treatment can be significantly adapted.  For example, injections still need to be injected.  ThereContinue reading “Can You Ask Your Healthcare Provider To Adapt Their Treatments?”

Is Your System Resisting Learning More About How to “Stay In The Room” at Doctor’s Appointments? This Can Help

My book, “Staying In The Room:  Managing Medical And Dental Care When You Have DID” has been available on Amazon.com since July 2021.  It is already helping some people get the care they need and deserve.   But not everybody. I have received feedback from a few people (and know this is the tip ofContinue reading “Is Your System Resisting Learning More About How to “Stay In The Room” at Doctor’s Appointments? This Can Help”

What Does “Slack” Have To Do With Living With DID?

The concept of “slack” isn’t new.  It isn’t trending or hot either.  It comes more from behavioral economics than from psychiatry.  But it is a valuable concept for anyone seeking healthcare services if they have DID. WHY? Because creating slack in your appointments and in your self-care could prevent you from being triggered, help youContinue reading “What Does “Slack” Have To Do With Living With DID?”

Why Doesn’t Your Therapist Know How Difficult Healthcare Appointments Are For You?

Actually, they probably do.   But perhaps not all of them do. Dr. Bethany Brand, a leading trauma researcher, did a study almost 7 years ago.  The TOP DD study looked at what dissociative patients thought about their lives and their psychotherapy treatment, and what psychotherapists treating trauma survivors with dissociative disorders thought about treatmentContinue reading “Why Doesn’t Your Therapist Know How Difficult Healthcare Appointments Are For You?”

Want to Get Better Results at Your Next Medical or Dental Appointment? Don’t Make This Mistake

No, it isn’t revealing your mental health diagnosis.  Although doing so can go either way to get better treatment. And no, it isn’t listing every illness or injury you have had in the last 5 years. When your appointment is wrapping up, please do not ask a “doorknob” question. What is that? A “doorknob” questionContinue reading “Want to Get Better Results at Your Next Medical or Dental Appointment? Don’t Make This Mistake”