Are PTSD Nightmares Therapeutic?

This is often a concept offered to trauma survivors:  their terrible dreams are helping them heal.  They need to suffer through the fear and racing heartbeats in order to recover and grow. Well, let’s unpack this a bit more.  Like a lot of things, there is some truth to this, and a big distinction betweenContinue reading “Are PTSD Nightmares Therapeutic?”

How to Improve Your Physical Health While Still Struggling With “Somatic Tolerance”

What is “somatic tolerance”?  It is a therapy term that is used when you find it either unpleasant or just plain difficult to be present in your body.  You could be unable to answer a question like “When you are scared, where do you feel it in your body?” or you could not know thatContinue reading “How to Improve Your Physical Health While Still Struggling With “Somatic Tolerance””

How to Manage Your Response to Physical Pain When You Have DID

No one wants to be in physical pain. No one. Parts who think you deserve pain often believe the terrible things they were told in childhood about you, or hope that by feeling bad now you will avoid even worse things later.  Sometimes they simply feel that being in physical pain is familiar to them,Continue reading “How to Manage Your Response to Physical Pain When You Have DID”

Three Common Sleep Issues for Trauma Survivors (and an effective treatment for nightmares!)

Trauma survivors with and without DID often have sleep-related problems.  They are so common, in fact, that it leaves many providers wondering if disordered sleep should be a component of the next DSM diagnostic criteria. I will leave that to the psychiatrists.  Today’s post is about sleep behaviors that scare adults with DID, and whyContinue reading “Three Common Sleep Issues for Trauma Survivors (and an effective treatment for nightmares!)”

How to Avoid Needing Medical and Dental Care When You Have DID

Most people really don’t enjoy being ill or injured.  For the people that do find being sick a good thing, this isn’t the blog site for you.  Google “Munchausen” and good luck to you. For everyone else, being hurt or feeling sick is miserable, and one of your strongest wishes is to stay out ofContinue reading “How to Avoid Needing Medical and Dental Care When You Have DID”

Could You Use Stimulus Control Therapy to Work With Parts?

Stimulus Control Therapy is a behavioral strategy for insomnia.  Put simply, you create a sleep environment that subconsciously messages you that you are there…to sleep.  You do not remain in bed if you can’t sleep, but you also don’t use your bed for hanging out during the day.  Your actions are calm and purposeful, andContinue reading “Could You Use Stimulus Control Therapy to Work With Parts?”

Is Your System Resisting Learning More About How to “Stay In The Room” at Doctor’s Appointments? This Can Help

My book, “Staying In The Room:  Managing Medical And Dental Care When You Have DID” has been available on Amazon.com since July 2021.  It is already helping some people get the care they need and deserve.   But not everybody. I have received feedback from a few people (and know this is the tip ofContinue reading “Is Your System Resisting Learning More About How to “Stay In The Room” at Doctor’s Appointments? This Can Help”

Why Describing Pain Symptoms Is Harder When You Have DID

Healthcare providers want to talk to you about your pain.  You, and very likely, most of your system, want to have the pain end, but don’t want to talk about it at length. It feels bad to talk about things that feel bad. This makes perfect sense to anyone that understands trauma.  Here is whereContinue reading “Why Describing Pain Symptoms Is Harder When You Have DID”