Starting to Dissociate in an Appointment? You Have Some Choices

Everyone with DID has been there. You are in the middle of a medical or dental appointment, and you either hear another part’s words coming out of your mouth, or you feel yourself floating to the ceiling, or you can’t open your mouth to answer a simple question. You are dissociating or switching.   ThinkContinue reading “Starting to Dissociate in an Appointment? You Have Some Choices”

Should You Tell Your Dentist You Have DID?

Short answer:  It depends. Long answer:  It depends on your goal. Revealing a diagnosis because you think it will result in an immediate action by the dentist, which will make sitting in that chair easier, is usually based on magical thinking arising from stress and anxiety.  It makes sense:  “please give me one thing IContinue reading “Should You Tell Your Dentist You Have DID?”

Why is it so Hard to Use Many Common Stabilization Strategies in Medical and Dental Appointments?

The short answer? Because the part of your brain that goes partially “off-line” when you dissociate is the SAME PART that is supposed to remember and use the techniques your therapist taught you in session. Yup.   I know. Me too. The long(er) answer? Because you aren’t using them early enough, using more than one,Continue reading “Why is it so Hard to Use Many Common Stabilization Strategies in Medical and Dental Appointments?”

Could Getting Better Sleep Decrease Your Response to Trauma Triggers?

Well, we really don’t know for sure. What we do know is that sleep deprivation is, to put it technically, really bad for your brain. Bad in so many ways.  It negatively affects so many other organ systems as well.  But we do know that affects the brain in ways that make it easier toContinue reading “Could Getting Better Sleep Decrease Your Response to Trauma Triggers?”

Here is What You Can Request From Your Doctor To Feel Safer In Your Next Appointment

I will be speaking at the Healing Together conference next month, and one of my handouts will be a modified version of this list of suggested adaptations.  I thought I would share it here, since it could be the most helpful thing I say to the audience during my presentation. Why ask for adaptations? BecauseContinue reading “Here is What You Can Request From Your Doctor To Feel Safer In Your Next Appointment”

Is Your System Resisting Learning More About How to “Stay In The Room” at Doctor’s Appointments? This Can Help

My book, “Staying In The Room:  Managing Medical And Dental Care When You Have DID” has been available on Amazon.com since July 2021.  It is already helping some people get the care they need and deserve.   But not everybody. I have received feedback from a few people (and know this is the tip ofContinue reading “Is Your System Resisting Learning More About How to “Stay In The Room” at Doctor’s Appointments? This Can Help”

What Does “Slack” Have To Do With Living With DID?

The concept of “slack” isn’t new.  It isn’t trending or hot either.  It comes more from behavioral economics than from psychiatry.  But it is a valuable concept for anyone seeking healthcare services if they have DID. WHY? Because creating slack in your appointments and in your self-care could prevent you from being triggered, help youContinue reading “What Does “Slack” Have To Do With Living With DID?”

Why Doesn’t Your Therapist Know How Difficult Healthcare Appointments Are For You?

Actually, they probably do.   But perhaps not all of them do. Dr. Bethany Brand, a leading trauma researcher, did a study almost 7 years ago.  The TOP DD study looked at what dissociative patients thought about their lives and their psychotherapy treatment, and what psychotherapists treating trauma survivors with dissociative disorders thought about treatmentContinue reading “Why Doesn’t Your Therapist Know How Difficult Healthcare Appointments Are For You?”

Four Ways To Recognize A Healthcare Provider With Partner Potential

I am not referring to finding a romantic partner, or a business partner.  A great healthcare provider can be your partner in developing better physical health. Healing from severe trauma requires a degree of physical health.  For many different reasons, adults with trauma disorders are at a greater risk of health concerns over their lifetime.Continue reading “Four Ways To Recognize A Healthcare Provider With Partner Potential”

Sleep And DID: Could Better Sleep Be As Important As Therapy?

Matthew Walker PhD doesn’t treat adults with DID.  But perhaps he should.     He is a sleep researcher, possibly one of the best in the world, and one with an amazing book that makes it clear that your physical AND mental health, and your sleep quality, are inseparable.   If you are a scienceContinue reading “Sleep And DID: Could Better Sleep Be As Important As Therapy?”