Why Being “Knocked Out” at the Dentist is Riskier Than You Think When You Have DID

So many trauma survivors find receiving dental treatments in the dentist’s office frightening.  OK, maybe not frightening.  Terrifying.  They often opt for being “knocked out” instead of choosing to stay awake and aware during treatment. I understand why. And I understand why this is not a solution without some risks. Many autistic kids receive theContinue reading “Why Being “Knocked Out” at the Dentist is Riskier Than You Think When You Have DID”

How Trauma Survivors With DID Can Accept Help While in the Hospital for Medical Issues

Being hospitalized for a physical illness or injury can be extremely stressful.  No one gets any sleep, the food is often a bit scary, and communicating with your outside providers might be tough to manage. But too often, you just want some help to get to the bathroom… in time. If you have DID, askingContinue reading “How Trauma Survivors With DID Can Accept Help While in the Hospital for Medical Issues”

How to Manage Your Response to Physical Pain When You Have DID

No one wants to be in physical pain. No one. Parts who think you deserve pain often believe the terrible things they were told in childhood about you, or hope that by feeling bad now you will avoid even worse things later.  Sometimes they simply feel that being in physical pain is familiar to them,Continue reading “How to Manage Your Response to Physical Pain When You Have DID”

Starting to Dissociate in an Appointment? You Have Some Choices

Everyone with DID has been there. You are in the middle of a medical or dental appointment, and you either hear another part’s words coming out of your mouth, or you feel yourself floating to the ceiling, or you can’t open your mouth to answer a simple question. You are dissociating or switching.   ThinkContinue reading “Starting to Dissociate in an Appointment? You Have Some Choices”

Should You Tell Your Dentist You Have DID?

Short answer:  It depends. Long answer:  It depends on your goal. Revealing a diagnosis because you think it will result in an immediate action by the dentist, which will make sitting in that chair easier, is usually based on magical thinking arising from stress and anxiety.  It makes sense:  “please give me one thing IContinue reading “Should You Tell Your Dentist You Have DID?”

How to Avoid Needing Medical and Dental Care When You Have DID

Most people really don’t enjoy being ill or injured.  For the people that do find being sick a good thing, this isn’t the blog site for you.  Google “Munchausen” and good luck to you. For everyone else, being hurt or feeling sick is miserable, and one of your strongest wishes is to stay out ofContinue reading “How to Avoid Needing Medical and Dental Care When You Have DID”

Why is it so Hard to Use Many Common Stabilization Strategies in Medical and Dental Appointments?

The short answer? Because the part of your brain that goes partially “off-line” when you dissociate is the SAME PART that is supposed to remember and use the techniques your therapist taught you in session. Yup.   I know. Me too. The long(er) answer? Because you aren’t using them early enough, using more than one,Continue reading “Why is it so Hard to Use Many Common Stabilization Strategies in Medical and Dental Appointments?”

Here is What You Can Request From Your Doctor To Feel Safer In Your Next Appointment

I will be speaking at the Healing Together conference next month, and one of my handouts will be a modified version of this list of suggested adaptations.  I thought I would share it here, since it could be the most helpful thing I say to the audience during my presentation. Why ask for adaptations? BecauseContinue reading “Here is What You Can Request From Your Doctor To Feel Safer In Your Next Appointment”

Can You Ask Your Healthcare Provider To Adapt Their Treatments?

The short answer is “yes”. What you request, when you request it, and how you request it are important things to consider if you want to use adaptations successfully to reduce your fear, pain, and risk of being triggered. Not every treatment can be significantly adapted.  For example, injections still need to be injected.  ThereContinue reading “Can You Ask Your Healthcare Provider To Adapt Their Treatments?”

Why Describing Pain Symptoms Is Harder When You Have DID

Healthcare providers want to talk to you about your pain.  You, and very likely, most of your system, want to have the pain end, but don’t want to talk about it at length. It feels bad to talk about things that feel bad. This makes perfect sense to anyone that understands trauma.  Here is whereContinue reading “Why Describing Pain Symptoms Is Harder When You Have DID”