Are PTSD Nightmares Therapeutic?

This is often a concept offered to trauma survivors:  their terrible dreams are helping them heal.  They need to suffer through the fear and racing heartbeats in order to recover and grow. Well, let’s unpack this a bit more.  Like a lot of things, there is some truth to this, and a big distinction betweenContinue reading “Are PTSD Nightmares Therapeutic?”

Why Being “Knocked Out” at the Dentist is Riskier Than You Think When You Have DID

So many trauma survivors find receiving dental treatments in the dentist’s office frightening.  OK, maybe not frightening.  Terrifying.  They often opt for being “knocked out” instead of choosing to stay awake and aware during treatment. I understand why. And I understand why this is not a solution without some risks. Many autistic kids receive theContinue reading “Why Being “Knocked Out” at the Dentist is Riskier Than You Think When You Have DID”

Are Parts of Your Dissociative System Too Active at Night?

Many people with DID wake up to find that their parts have been active while they thought the were sleeping.  They weren’t sleeping; they were switching.  This means that their body (there is only one) wasn’t getting the benefits of sleep.  Poor sleep can make daytime harder.  You are on edge, you dissociate more andContinue reading “Are Parts of Your Dissociative System Too Active at Night?”

Are Your Antidepressant Meds Making You Feel Stupid and Keeping You Awake?

Trauma survivors often heard people say really awful things about their abilities in childhood.  “You are so dumb” is one of them.  The truth usually is that they are being gaslit or groomed for later abuse.  There is nothing wrong with their intelligence.  But when an adult trauma survivor finds that they can’t remember simpleContinue reading “Are Your Antidepressant Meds Making You Feel Stupid and Keeping You Awake?”

Why Does Tech Torpedo Sleep?

Everyone loves their devices. Everyone. Except your brain and body.   Your brain gets glitchy with doom scrolling, and how much it loves the simple rewards of clicking through things rather than diving deep into stuff.  It goes right into a high Beta brainwave state, where it is hyper focused but vulnerable to anxiety andContinue reading “Why Does Tech Torpedo Sleep?”

Should Trauma Survivors Avoid Taking Naps?

A lovely long nap seems like a gift.  And for trauma survivors who fear sleeping at night, a nap might be their most peaceful sleeping time. It can also be the major contributor to their sleep terrors and nighttime insomnia. The reasons for this are not a mystery to sleep scientists.  They don’t have toContinue reading “Should Trauma Survivors Avoid Taking Naps?”

Why Your Nightcap Could Torpedo Your Expensive Trauma Therapy

It is pretty common for trauma survivors to look to alcohol to take the edge off at the end of a rough day.  Most days are challenging when you have DID.  Some days it feels like 5 pm by noon.  Or earlier. A small glass of wine or a single bottle of brew seems quiteContinue reading “Why Your Nightcap Could Torpedo Your Expensive Trauma Therapy”

How Trauma Survivors With DID Can Accept Help While in the Hospital for Medical Issues

Being hospitalized for a physical illness or injury can be extremely stressful.  No one gets any sleep, the food is often a bit scary, and communicating with your outside providers might be tough to manage. But too often, you just want some help to get to the bathroom… in time. If you have DID, askingContinue reading “How Trauma Survivors With DID Can Accept Help While in the Hospital for Medical Issues”

How to Manage Your Response to Physical Pain When You Have DID

No one wants to be in physical pain. No one. Parts who think you deserve pain often believe the terrible things they were told in childhood about you, or hope that by feeling bad now you will avoid even worse things later.  Sometimes they simply feel that being in physical pain is familiar to them,Continue reading “How to Manage Your Response to Physical Pain When You Have DID”

Starting to Dissociate in an Appointment? You Have Some Choices

Everyone with DID has been there. You are in the middle of a medical or dental appointment, and you either hear another part’s words coming out of your mouth, or you feel yourself floating to the ceiling, or you can’t open your mouth to answer a simple question. You are dissociating or switching.   ThinkContinue reading “Starting to Dissociate in an Appointment? You Have Some Choices”