Are PTSD Nightmares Therapeutic?

This is often a concept offered to trauma survivors:  their terrible dreams are helping them heal.  They need to suffer through the fear and racing heartbeats in order to recover and grow. Well, let’s unpack this a bit more.  Like a lot of things, there is some truth to this, and a big distinction betweenContinue reading “Are PTSD Nightmares Therapeutic?”

How to Improve Your Physical Health While Still Struggling With “Somatic Tolerance”

What is “somatic tolerance”?  It is a therapy term that is used when you find it either unpleasant or just plain difficult to be present in your body.  You could be unable to answer a question like “When you are scared, where do you feel it in your body?” or you could not know thatContinue reading “How to Improve Your Physical Health While Still Struggling With “Somatic Tolerance””

Are Parts of Your Dissociative System Too Active at Night?

Many people with DID wake up to find that their parts have been active while they thought the were sleeping.  They weren’t sleeping; they were switching.  This means that their body (there is only one) wasn’t getting the benefits of sleep.  Poor sleep can make daytime harder.  You are on edge, you dissociate more andContinue reading “Are Parts of Your Dissociative System Too Active at Night?”

Are Your Antidepressant Meds Making You Feel Stupid and Keeping You Awake?

Trauma survivors often heard people say really awful things about their abilities in childhood.  “You are so dumb” is one of them.  The truth usually is that they are being gaslit or groomed for later abuse.  There is nothing wrong with their intelligence.  But when an adult trauma survivor finds that they can’t remember simpleContinue reading “Are Your Antidepressant Meds Making You Feel Stupid and Keeping You Awake?”

Why Does Tech Torpedo Sleep?

Everyone loves their devices. Everyone. Except your brain and body.   Your brain gets glitchy with doom scrolling, and how much it loves the simple rewards of clicking through things rather than diving deep into stuff.  It goes right into a high Beta brainwave state, where it is hyper focused but vulnerable to anxiety andContinue reading “Why Does Tech Torpedo Sleep?”

Should Trauma Survivors Avoid Taking Naps?

A lovely long nap seems like a gift.  And for trauma survivors who fear sleeping at night, a nap might be their most peaceful sleeping time. It can also be the major contributor to their sleep terrors and nighttime insomnia. The reasons for this are not a mystery to sleep scientists.  They don’t have toContinue reading “Should Trauma Survivors Avoid Taking Naps?”

How to Manage Your Response to Physical Pain When You Have DID

No one wants to be in physical pain. No one. Parts who think you deserve pain often believe the terrible things they were told in childhood about you, or hope that by feeling bad now you will avoid even worse things later.  Sometimes they simply feel that being in physical pain is familiar to them,Continue reading “How to Manage Your Response to Physical Pain When You Have DID”

Starting to Dissociate in an Appointment? You Have Some Choices

Everyone with DID has been there. You are in the middle of a medical or dental appointment, and you either hear another part’s words coming out of your mouth, or you feel yourself floating to the ceiling, or you can’t open your mouth to answer a simple question. You are dissociating or switching.   ThinkContinue reading “Starting to Dissociate in an Appointment? You Have Some Choices”

Should You Tell Your Dentist You Have DID?

Short answer:  It depends. Long answer:  It depends on your goal. Revealing a diagnosis because you think it will result in an immediate action by the dentist, which will make sitting in that chair easier, is usually based on magical thinking arising from stress and anxiety.  It makes sense:  “please give me one thing IContinue reading “Should You Tell Your Dentist You Have DID?”

Revenge Bedtime Procrastination: How it is Different for People With DID?

Question:   Why would anyone take revenge on themselves as trauma survivors? Answer:     They (incorrectly) think they are getting a reward. Revenge Bedtime procrastination is something that people without trauma histories do all the time.  Adults with DID aren’t alone with this one. It is when you have had a full day, withContinue reading “Revenge Bedtime Procrastination: How it is Different for People With DID?”